Some honesty now, can shape the society we pass on to our kids.
Let me be very clear from the outset, I’m no fan of Donald Trump. I didn’t like the way he ran his presidential campaign, and was as horrified as the next person by is attitude and comments towards women.
But at the same time, I also saw those words and actions used not to further the plight of victims, but as political weapons. Nothing could excuse what he’d said, yet I didn’t see anything offered by many of his critics to suggest they legitimately held the moral high-ground.
It’s far too simplistic a view to paint one person as the epitome of evil, and the root of society’s ills, when we all have a duty to be more open and honest about who we collectively are.
I witnessed several of those who would class themselves as feminists, berating Trump and everything he stood for; all while wearing t-shirts that depicted sports stars and musicians who’ve served time in prison for the rape and battery of women. What the actual f…?
Why was no-one pointing out this gross hypocrisy? Correction, those who did were quickly dismissed as rabid right-wing Trump-supporters.
Could it be that they were the socially savvy ones, and able to see the bigger picture?
Now, we have the almost daily revelations about celebrities and politicians who’re the subject of allegations concerning sexual misconduct and inappropriate behaviour. While my heart goes out to each and every victim, I’m so glad we’re able to now have this opportunity to be honest about who we are as a society.
For goodness sake folks, let’s stop burying our collective heads in the sand and call it as it is: it’s always been this way. Just think about the saying ‘to the victor goes the spoils’ and think for a moment about what that meant to the many generations that came before us.
What do all those who currently stand accused have in common? They hold positions of power. They have influence and advantage over others, and a significant entourage or peer group who’re willing to turn a blind eye
Can we be crystal clear for a moment? Power doesn’t corrupt: it merely provides opportunity to those with weak morals!
I have, as I’m sure you have too, witnessed colleagues who we’ve thought were decent enough, suddenly become tyrants the second they find themselves in power. I’ve witnessed both male and female colleagues leverage their position for sexual favour. More male than female it has to be said; but the point being it isn’t entirely gender specific.
If we do nothing when we become aware of such instances, then we are partly to blame for the society we now find ourselves struggling to fathom. When I had evidence, I took action. Without evidence, let’s just say the options are less clear-cut, but there are still ways in which attitudes can be challenged, and victims supported.
Would you put your neck on the line for a victim? Would you…….?
There were times my career suffered as a consequence of my whistle-blowing. But it never stopped me trying to uphold the standards that we all professed to be representing. It’s hard, but the alternative is that nothing changes, and this is my worry.
I believe we have a golden opportunity to challenge our societal attitudes, and agree to hold ourselves collectively to a higher standard. My fear, however, is that a bigger story will appear in the media, and everything will be forgotten. Worse still we pass up this opportunity by placing it in the ‘too hard to do category.’
Will we, as a society, individually try to be better, while demanding more from those of us who have positions of power and influence? Will we accept that we could do more, and vow to do so from here on out? Will we hold ourselves completely accountable for our own words and actions, and endeavour to set the best possible example for the next generation?
I hope so……